Ahhh The Easy Life. What? !!!!!!

Have you ever had a hard day at the office and on your way home all you can think about is taking a hot bath, eating some dinner, reading a book, and relaxing?  But when you open the door it looks like a hurricane has come through your living room and ripped up everything. Your spouse wants to talk about their day, you have work you need to get done for the office, and you feel like running away. Don’t feel guilty because this is totally normal and there are things you can do to bring your blood pressure down, stay calm, and be in the right frame of mind to complete all of your tasks and have a good relaxing night.
So you want peace and how do you find it? I certainly have had my share of “Drama Days”.  Peace is a state of calmness and serenity and the antithesis of this state is stress and anxiety.  Only you can control your thoughts and your emotions and how you react to them.  “Awareness is the power that is concealed within the present moment.”  You have to be aware of your self-talk, be cognizant of your feelings and most importantly, the way you communicate these feelings to the world.  You have to understand who you are inside to transform those feelings to find your inner peace.  Here are a few strategies to help you on your quest for inner peace.
Let Go of Control.  Leaders intellectually and intuitively know that people feel appreciated and respected when they are allowed to make a contribution rather than be nit-picked and controlled.  To quote one of Stephen R. Covey’s seven habits: “Synergize. “Look for the third alternative – not my way, not your way, but a third way that is better than either of us would come up with individually.  It’s the fruit of respecting and celebrating one another’s differences.”  Let go and trust that all will be right and you will find peace.
Ride home reflecting on what’s important – On the way home you should drive at a slower pace than you would going to work and reflect on the day’s successes and the positives because most people take that time to replay the negatives and get home and bring that negativity into their home. Be thankful for heading home from your place of business when so many don’t have a job, think about who or what you’re working for (family/self) and what drives you, and give yourself a few minutes everyday before you walk in the door to breath deep and smile regardless of what’s going on because it can always be worse.
Get proper rest. Lack of proper rest can increase stress levels, anxiety, and blood pressure. You use a lot of energy during the day and getting proper rest will work wonders for your attitude.
Eat properly. Eating fruit and other natural energy giving food will provide you with the fuel you need to stay energized.
Physical exercise.  Exercise and being optimistic can change your mental outlook and will help your health enormously.   Martin Seligman, PHD and one of the leading experts in the field of positive psychology and author of the new book Flourish states: “ when it comes to our health there are essentially four things under our control: the decision not to smoke, a commitment to exercise, the quality of our diet and our level of optimism.  And optimism is at least as beneficial as the others.” Not only will exercise and optimism relieve your mind of stress but it will also give you a boost of energy.  Putting yourself first, adding exercise and a positive mental attitude will definitely enhance your overall well-being and will help make you feel at peace.
Quiet time (Meditation/Prayer), Deep Breathing Exercise. This exercise can be done anywhere.  It calms the mind and balances the emotions.  Sit straight with your hands on your lap and close your eyes. Focus on your breathing.  Start inhaling slowing and deeply to a count of 4 seconds.  Hold your breath for a count of 7 seconds and then release and exhale slowly for a count of 8 seconds.  You will instantly feel a sense of calm. Or find a few minutes during the day to meditate / pray to center yourself to regain balance and focus. We experience different things during the day and some can be stressful things that can really bring you down unless you find time to close your eyes and concentrate on deep breathing. When I do this I calm down and I am able to think much clearer.
Laugh. Find time to laugh as much and often as you can because laughing is contagious and the world could use more of it. Don’t take yourself so serious and find time to enjoy life because you’ll find that there is a lot to laugh at!
Stop watching/listening to the news. Eliminate the news in your life entirely.  What a difference it has made in my life. We live in a culture where negative media is broadcast 24 hours 7 days a week. This keeps you in a constant state of negative energy. I don’t miss the news and if something important is happening I will eventually hear about it.
On my personal journey I am learning that I’d rather have peace then to always be right.  Take 15 minutes out of your day to meditate and quiet your mind.  When you take the time to be still you will create a state of peace and happiness with this daily practice.  When I find myself anxious or troubled I affirm “You can choose peace instead of this” and “this too shall pass”.  These two powerful statements have always brought me strength and peace.  Lastly, this quote from Dalai Lama recaps inner peace beautifully: ”As human beings we all want to be happy and free from misery…we have learned that the key to happiness is inner peace.  The greatest obstacles to inner peace are disturbing emotions as anger, attachment, fear and suspicion, while love and compassion and a sense of universal responsibility are the sources of peace and happiness.” 
About the authors: Best Selling Author Brian Maxwell aka the Success Coach for the Generation of Change and Debra at morningcoach.com. I combined two similar articles which had also had unique points that I wanted to reflect and did some editing of my own.

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